Hold a Family Meeting
A family meeting allows all those who might want a say in a loved one's care, including the loved one herself, to gather for a frank discussion of the person's circumstances and needs.
Attendees have equal opportunity to express their opinions about what needs to be done, by when, and by whom. If the meeting achieves its purpose, everyone will pull together to support the primary caregiver and ease the physical and emotional demands of giving care.
There is no "best" time to arrange the first meeting. Some families choose to convene before a loved one requires considerable support, so they can plan ahead. But for many others, a medical crisis forces the issue. Even then, experts say, getting together can help organize caregiving efforts and maintain family harmony.
Invite everyone who is affected by a loved one's situation, family members as well as close friends (with your loved one's approval, when possible). If some people can't attend in person, make arrangements for them to call in on a speakerphone, so they can hear everything that's being discussed. Another option is to go online. Today, many families conduct meetings in private chat rooms on the Internet.
Don't forget your loved one, whose attendance at the meeting is especially important. If the person is hospitalized but able to take part, you may want to make arrangements to gather at the hospital (though in that case, you might need to limit the invitees to just immediate family).
In the event that your loved one can't participate because of cognitive or functional impairment, hold the meeting anyway, then report back to them afterward. Provide options that encourage her to make decisions about her own care, to the extent that she is able.
If anyone in your family chooses not to take part in discussions, don't try to force the issue. Just keep the person in the loop as best you can, without asking anything of her. For the first meeting, keep your expectations realistic.If you're not comfortable running a family meeting on your own, or if family members can't agree on certain aspects of a loved one's care, consider asking a third-party professional to step in on your behalf. Potential facilitators include the family cleric, a psychologist, a social worker, or a geriatric care manager.
Saturday, March 29, 2008
Hold a Family Meeting
Posted by chel at 3/29/2008 11:25:00 PM
Friday, March 28, 2008
Ask for Help
Your immediate assignment is to figure out what sort of support your loved one needs right away or in the very near future, and what services you, or possibly community agencies, can provide. That way, when you approach other family members for help, you can be very explicit about which tasks they might take on. And you may feel more comfortable asking for their help once you see just how much you're doing and what remains to be done.You'll need to assemble a caregiving to-do list. Experts recommend following these steps to organize the support you need:
Write down everything — including household chores, transportation, personal finances, and tasks of daily living (such as dressing and grooming) — with which your loved one currently requires assistance. Gather as much input from your loved one as she's able to provide.
Determine how often each task must be performed, getting as specific as you can. For example, your loved one may need a hand with mowing the lawn every week or paying the bills once a month.
Gather information about caregiving resources in the community, such as Meals on Wheels, transportation services, adult day care, and respite care. Remember that many agencies and organizations exist for the sole purpose of aiding caregivers like you.
"Contact just one office to start," Cavanaugh advises. "The person there can direct you to other places as necessary. You can make a lot of valuable connections with very little time and effort."
Once you know what various agencies and organizations can offer, go back to your caregiving to-do list, and mark which tasks they're able to take on, such as phone check-ins or grocery delivery. Be sure to keep contact information for everyone you've dealt with, in case you have additional questions once you've consulted your family.
Make plans to share your list with your loved one and with other family members and friends who make up her caregiving circle. This might best be done at a family meeting.
However you decide to move forward, you'll know you've done your homework, thoroughly researching community resources and all of the services they provide. You've done everything you can without your family's involvement. Now all of you must decide on your respective roles in your loved one's care.
Posted by chel at 3/28/2008 11:22:00 PM
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Caregiving can be draining on you and your family. Here's what you need to know.
By Beth Witrogen McLeod, Prevention
Chances are, if you're reading this, that you're already a member of the more than 22.4 million households involved in caregiving. Becoming a caregiver is a personal evolution and identity in itself.
Sometimes you settle in to the role gradually (Mom is less independent), and other times the shift is practically instant (Mom had a stroke). Regardless of how you come to be a caregiver, most of us are pitched into the responsibility untrained and largely unprepared. But there is help.
Remember high school English and the words of the English poet and clergyman John Donne: "No man [or woman] is an island"? Well, you shouldn't be either. You need the physical and emotional support of others, especially if you're the primary caregiver. You get that support by reaching out to family and friends — in essence, by building bridges between the islands.
These bridges are crucial if you want to thrive in your caregiving role. As Gloria Cavanaugh, president and chief executive officer of the San Francisco-based American Society on Aging, observes, "Caregiving is one of the most challenging tasks a person can take on, especially if the situation lasts for more than a few months. You can't do it all yourself. You need help, and lots of it."
As a caregiver, you're going to develop a whole new set of skills, not the least of which is reaching out to others. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but with practice, it will build courage and self-confidence.
Perhaps you want to ask for help, but you don't know how. You can learn. Consider it a caregiver's rite of passage.
Posted by chel at 3/27/2008 11:17:00 PM
Wednesday, March 26, 2008
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Posted by chel at 3/26/2008 05:02:00 AM
Monday, March 24, 2008
People with Alzheimer's needs often needs help handling with routine daily activities such as bathing, dressing, eating and using the bathroom. If your loved one needs this type of care, balance the loss of privacy and independence with gentleness and tact. Consider these tips to make everyday activities easier. As caregivers, it is our job to help them assist for their personal necessities.
Bathing may be a frightening, confusing experience for a person who has Alzheimer's disease. Having a plan can help make the experience better for both of you.
*Find the right routine. Some people prefer showers, while others prefer tub baths. Time of day is often important as well. Experiment with morning, afternoon and evening bathing.
*Make it comfortable. Make sure the bathroom is warm, and keep towels or bath blankets handy.
*Keep it private. If your loved one is self-conscious about being naked, provide a towel for cover when he or she gets in and out of the shower or tub.
*Help your loved one feel in control. Explain each step of the bathing process to help your loved one understand what's happening.
*Be flexible. If daily bathing is traumatic, alternate alternate tub baths or showers with sponge baths.
The physical and mental impairment of Alzheimer's can make dressing a frustrating experience. But helping your loved one maintain his or her appearance can promote positive self-esteem.
*Establish a routine. Try to have the person get dressed at the same time each day so that he or she will come to expect it as part of the daily routine.
*Limit choices. Offer no more than two clothing options each morning. Clear closets of rarely worn clothes that may complicate the decision.
*Provide direction. Lay out pieces of clothing in the order they should be put on. Or hand out clothing one piece at a time as you provide short, simple dressing instructions.
*Be patient. Rushing the dressing process may cause anxiety.
*Consider your loved one's tastes and dislikes. Don't argue if your loved one doesn't want to wear a particular garment or wants to wear the same outfit repeatedly. You may even want to buy duplicates of a few favorite outfits.
A person with Alzheimer's may not remember when he or she last ate - or why it's important to eat. Some people with AD want to eat all the time, while others need encouragement to eat.
*Eat at regular times. Don't rely on your loved one to ask for food. As Alzheimer's progresses, your loved one may not respond to hunger and thirst.
*Vary the menu. Offer limited but healthy food choices with varied textures, colors and spices. *Choose foods that contrast with the color of the plate. Alzheimer's disease may compromise your loved one's visual and spatial abilities — sometimes making it tough to distinguish food from the plate.
*Serve things one at a time. Putting only one item on the plate at a time can help keep meals pleasant and simple.
*Be careful when serving hot food. Your loved one may not recognize that a food is too hot to eat.
*Limit distractions. Turn off the television or radio and the ringer on the telephone to help your loved one focus on the task at hand.
*Eat together. Make meals an enjoyable social event so that your loved one looks forward to the experience. Offer encouragement and praise during the meal.
As Alzheimer's progresses, problems with incontinence often surface. Help your loved one maintain a sense of dignity despite the loss of control.
*Make the bathroom easy to find. A sign on the door that says "Toilet" may be helpful. You can even use a picture of a toilet.
*Be alert for signs. Restlessness or tugging on clothing may signal the need to use the bathroom.
*Establish a schedule. Schedule bathroom breaks every two hours, before and after meals and before bedtime. Don't wait for the person to ask.
*Make clothing easy to open or remove. Replace zippers and buttons with Velcro. Choose pants with an elastic waist.
*Be proactive. To help prevent nighttime accidents, limit certain types of fluids — such as those with caffeine — in the evening.
*Take accidents in stride. Praise toileting success — and offer reassurance when accidents happen.
Patience is key
As you help your loved one meet daily challenges, be patient and compassionate. If a certain approach stops working, don't be discouraged. Simply try something new. As Alzheimer's progresses, every bit of understanding, flexibility and creativity you can muster will make life easier for both you and your loved one.
Posted by chel at 3/24/2008 05:07:00 AM
Sunday, March 16, 2008
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Posted by chel at 3/16/2008 08:27:00 PM
Heart health starts at the grocery store. And although the supermarket isn't the only place where you get food, it is the most common source and so the first place to implement heart-attack-prevention strategies.
Here's a quick and easy-to-remember summary of what we know about heart disease prevention: Eat a diet low in fat, sodium, and cholesterol, and high in fiber, fruits, and vegetables. Of course, this is easier said than done.
But rather than talking about what you can't buy at the grocery store (you likely know that already), let's focus on what you can. Come take a tour of the grocery store with me.
Start by thinking of the supermarket as a big square, and try to do most of your shopping along its perimeter. This is where you'll find the fresh fruits, vegetables, dairy, meats, and some grains, all the foods recommended to keep your heart healthy.
On the other hand, the middle aisles are generally stocked with convenience foods, snack foods, seasonings, baking ingredients, and beverages, all the things we don't routinely need to purchase. (Ever notice how most of the products eligible for manufacturers' coupon discounts are middle-aisle items that you don't need?) Even here, though, you'll find some healthier choices — namely, canned fruits and vegetables; soups; pasta, rice, and cereals; and nuts and dried beans.
So, for heart health, cut back on the amount of grocery shopping you do in the center aisles. Instead, fill your cart with foods from the store's perimeter. This strategy will not only ensure that you buy mostly heart-healthy foods but will also make your next shopping trip easier and faster.
This is an article written
by Christine McKinney, M.S., R.D., C.D.E
Posted by chel at 3/16/2008 05:16:00 PM
Saturday, March 15, 2008
Thursday, March 13, 2008
I have missed the people that I worked with. I missed my favorite resident. I missed my co-workers. Even I am not working with them at the moment, right now I am glad that I was able to visit my family here. And I am trying to enjoy every little bit of my time with them.
Posted by chel at 3/13/2008 02:41:00 AM
Monday, March 10, 2008
I'm in Grand Rapids Airport right now waiting to board the plane in about an hour. Just checking my chikka here to text my family back home. I was watching the news and it is snowing in Chicago right now.I'm glad I brought with me my lightweight jacket.
Well, have to go for now. I don't want my laptop to be out of power cause have to check this in and turn it off again make sure there's a power remaining.
Bye for now...see you next time...
Posted by chel at 3/10/2008 07:20:00 AM
Saturday, March 8, 2008
I supposed to work tonight but got a call from my supervisor earlier that I don't have to come to work because they over staff, and I am glad because I don't have to go to work now....So yesterday night was my last day at work because I am leaving for one month vacation to the Philippines. I am going back home to see my family after here for 2 and half years. I'll be coming back here in the US on April 10 and I'm going back to work on the following day. I know that is a long time for a vacation. My co-workers said that I might not like coming back to work after being gone so long. But no and I'll be back because I love my job. I know I will miss the people but I''ll be with my family and that's the reason why I am going for vacation.
Posted by chel at 3/08/2008 11:23:00 PM
Thursday, March 6, 2008
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Posted by chel at 3/06/2008 06:02:00 PM
Wednesday, March 5, 2008
My first entry for this blog was Dec. 31st last year and that makes this blog 2 months old. Last week I decided to bought a domain from enom for this blog. I had a problem at first. It was'nt working for couple of days because I do not know how to edit the DNS settings. I was worried and thinking that I was only wasting my 10$. That's why I decided to called Enom and spoke to their customer service representative. He instructed me what to do and what needs to be replaced or edit on my host name setting and saved it afterwards so I can access my blogspot using my domain url. Yes, somewhat it was working cause I can open www.thenurseassistant.com but I still get directed to blogspot.com. So I make changes again but this time I did not call enom. Just a trial and error method for me until I hit the right one, but with reading on their website instruction.
And yes I switched "my revelation" to blog to my own domain already and please update my url in your blogroll if you have time.. Thanks
Posted by chel at 3/05/2008 02:40:00 PM
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
I have been get paid for blogging for quite a while now. All of my blogs have been compensating to blog except my domain because it was only new. I found it very helpful for me to advertise on blogs. The money that I was making was a very big help. Just recently I submitted this blog to smorty. But I did not expect anything good. And few days after I got an approval from them. I am so glad that I could get paid to blog at smorty.
Actually I have been a member of smorty through my other blogs for about 2 months now. And yes I am making money. I am getting paid weekly. Right now I have couple of task which are pending for approval and once it is approve I will have money again from blog advertising.
Just a suggestion here, if your passion is writing and willing to blog for money, and has a current blog which is 3months old you have a big chance to be part of smorty. All you have to do is visit their site and sign up as blogger. Then complete all the blank fields that needs to be filled out. Then submit it right away. After you submitted your blog to them, just wait for few days to receive and approval. And once your blog is approve ,you can start blogging for money on the same day.
Posted by chel at 3/04/2008 04:42:00 PM
Monday, March 3, 2008
..or it could be both?
An article on Alzheimer's or depression from MayoClinic.com
Alzheimer's and depression have some similar symptoms. Proper treatment improves quality of life.
Early Alzheimer's and depression share many symptoms, so it can be difficult even for doctors to distinguish between the two disorders. And many people with Alzheimer's — up to 40 percent, in fact — also are depressed.
One important difference between Alzheimer's and depression is in the effectiveness of treatment. While Alzheimer's drugs can only slow the progression of cognitive decline, medications to treat depression can improve a person's quality of life dramatically.
People who have both Alzheimer's and depression may find it easier to cope with the changes caused by Alzheimer's when they feel less depressed.
Some of the symptoms common to both Alzheimer's and depression include:
*Loss of interest in once-enjoyable activities and hobbies
*Sleeping too much or too little
With so much overlap in symptoms, it can be hard to distinguish between the two disorders, especially since they so often occur together. A thorough physical exam and psychological evaluation can be helpful in determining a diagnosis. However, many people with moderate to severe Alzheimer's disease lack both the insight and the vocabulary to express how they feel.
Signposts for depression
To detect depression in people who have Alzheimer's disease, doctors must rely more heavily on nonverbal cues and caregiver reports than on self-reported symptoms. If a person with Alzheimer's displays one of the first two symptoms in this list, along with at least two of the others, he or she may be depressed.
*Significantly depressed mood — sad, hopeless, discouraged, tearful
*Reduced pleasure in or response to social contacts and usual activities
*Social isolation or withdrawal
*Eating too much or too little
*Sleeping too much or too little
*Agitation or lethargy
*Fatigue or loss of energy
*Feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness or inappropriate guilt
*Recurrent thoughts of death or suicide
Posted by chel at 3/03/2008 10:01:00 AM
Sunday, March 2, 2008
Yesterday I only slept for 5 hours. And I knew that was not enough sleep, so in order for me to stay awake at work, so we dropped at the store and bought some very strong coffee and it work very well and I was not tired all night long. But you know, I am not really a coffee drinker but that really help to keep me awake. That was the second time that I had coffee which was caffeinated I usually bring with me a can of cold tea or either a pop but last night I don't have a choice, a tea or a pop won't make me stay awake for the whole night.
Posted by chel at 3/02/2008 10:30:00 AM